Wake up everybody, wake up!
I’m coming out of the dark and back into the marvelous
light. I don’t know if I’ve been missed or not, but whatever…I still love ya!
This entry greets you before the Father’s Day holiday. First of all, would love to thank my heavenly
Father for my biological father – the late Willie Mack. I was only 3 years old
when he went on to be with God, but he was a great man. His name and memory still lives on. I have people often telling me how great he
was….as a high school chemistry teacher, as a father, just a great man. Well, the great man part I already knew that
part since he made me and he was smart enough to marry my mother. Every father’s day, I get a little misty eyed
w/what little memory I have of him, but I am thankful for his life and the love
he showed my mom. They certainly don’t make ‘em like him anymore. Rest in power
daddy.
Moving on, as this post is not about that….I’m here for a
Father’s Day PSA. That’s right, a public
service announcement. Each year, on or
around Father’s Day, there are women who come out of the wood works to bash, the
father of their child/children. They do
it on Facebook, Twitter, and I am sure I will see a few posts on Instagram this
Sunday. I admire any woman handling
business on her own, working two or
sometimes three jobs to support herself and her kids. There is nothing negative
I can say about that situation. So many
do this day in and day out. I give you a
round of applause (not the Waka Flaka kind) and a standing ovation. My hats off to you as you are what being a
grown woman and mother is all about.
HOWEVER, to all the women that hold it down but you talk trash about
your ex, your “baby daddy”, or whatever you call him openly and in public, I
can’t with you. I know some men deserve
to be handed the “Mitch” of the year award - daily, but the biggest thing here is that that man is
still the child’s father. At some point,
in a woman’s life, he was everything she wanted or at least everything she
wanted to lay down with (or standup… I don’t know. I wasn’t there holding the light). When you speak so negatively of a choice YOU
made, it says a lot about you. Have I
made bad choices, sure I have, but I recognize them as such and work on a
plan/path to correct, amend, or just plain old forget about it. I for one recognize that people do change,
however, if one can bash this man publicly, I kind of develop the thought and I’m
sure I could be wrong – it happens – that the child sees and hears this
regularly. Sigh…let’s do better
ladies. While there are thousands of
deadbeat dads, “no counts” as my grandmother would say, I
just ask that you let the real men have their day.
As for the real men, I must recognize all of the men, who are outstanding fathers. Those who take off work for doctor/dentist appointments, dads who coach soccer, football, baseball, the guys who stay at home with the kids while mom works, the father who makes dinner, the man who recognizes the best way he can love his child is to love his child’s mother, the daddy who spends time with his child even if he doesn’t have the child support, the one who voluntarily puts himself ON child support, the dad who makes every effort to be in his child’s life despite the deadbeat mom who tries to thwart his every effort to do so, and the dads that can’t part hair worth a cuss, but still manage to make baby girl’s ponytails rock…I see you. Much love and props to the men who raise their children without the help of the mother and especially those who take on the job of being a father to a child that is not biologically his. Hugs and love to my “baby daddy”..lol..my brother, my uncles, my cousins, and friends….to all of you, thank you, you are shining examples.
Happy Father’s Day.
BONUS....Want More? Check out my post from over 2 years ago... A Father Is What A Father Does
Until next time....I'm just saying.