From A Male's Perspective

Taking a minute out to get a male's perspective from a hometown homie. Read up, comment, do what you will...but many thanks Soopa Maro for the insight.

What do you want from me?

What is it that women want? Do they want a man who is honest about the things he does, or one who lies about any and everything? Do they want a man who can admit that he has flaws, or one who is in denial? Do they want a man to care for them , or a man to beat on them.

Now days, it’s hard to be an honest man. No matter how much truth we tell, we are still the bad guy in the relationship. Women don’t want to hear the truth about relationships and the situations involved in it. They want the sugar coated, fluffy version that does nothing but add weight to the situation and makes them feel bad when they’ve had too much to eat.

Back away from the table ladies. Accept that all men are not created equally. Accept that every man has a major flaw or 3 or 4. Accept that we are not Prince Charming and will never be what you dream us up to be. You can’t ask a man to change something that’s been etched into his very existence. It’s what made him who he is. It’s what made you want to be with him in the first place.

You can’t question whether he loves you because he can’t bend exactly the way you want. The ones that love you and have issues within themselves can’t be asked to change at the drop of a dime. Not possible. And you probably can’t accommodate what they want any way, so why all the fuss. You can try, but in the end, you’re still only hurting one person, yourself.

If your man tells you that he’s not happy about something, then he’s probably genuine about it and giving you the opportunity to make a decision about what you want. If he tells you twice, then he’s making his decision. There won’t be a third time. There won’t be a chance to fix it.

A friend told me this today about what’s left of my relationship. She said, you love her because you were together, but you’re not in love with her anymore because you’re not willing to change anymore and you’re not willing to make it work. I believe this to be true. So figure out what it really is. Do you love or are you in love with.

And that’s my discombobulated rambling for today.